Lately, I have been amazed at the number of articles geared towards black
women and their dating choices. Black male authors have begun to challenge the
idea that Black women will hold out for their Black King or prince. They offer
up statistics that rate how many Black men are currently incarcerated and how
many do not hold a college degree.
The solution to all of these gloom and doom scenarios is to date outside of one's race. Be more open to the possibility of finding love somewhere else. Just when you are ready to head out and give it a
try, the same writers offer the fact that Black women rate the lowest on the
attractive chart for most non-black males.I am no longer able to stay silent.
women and their dating choices. Black male authors have begun to challenge the
idea that Black women will hold out for their Black King or prince. They offer
up statistics that rate how many Black men are currently incarcerated and how
many do not hold a college degree.
The solution to all of these gloom and doom scenarios is to date outside of one's race. Be more open to the possibility of finding love somewhere else. Just when you are ready to head out and give it a
try, the same writers offer the fact that Black women rate the lowest on the
attractive chart for most non-black males.I am no longer able to stay silent.
None of these articles discuss compatibility or where a heart can find comfort.
They paint dismal pictures and the idea that black single women are sitting at
home settling for less.
At the end of the day, you have to find what brings you
joy and peace of mind. When you are looking, it may surprise you when you see the
package that it comes in. Culturally, there are many reasons that black women
prefer black men. There are not many articles questioning why white women prefer
the companionship of white men. It is nice to not have to explain the nuances
and dissonance that comes with being Black in a world that reminds you of the
fact every day. Yet, I know many interracial couples that make it work, and have
found love and companionship.The question still remains. Does love have a color or a price tag?
They paint dismal pictures and the idea that black single women are sitting at
home settling for less.
At the end of the day, you have to find what brings you
joy and peace of mind. When you are looking, it may surprise you when you see the
package that it comes in. Culturally, there are many reasons that black women
prefer black men. There are not many articles questioning why white women prefer
the companionship of white men. It is nice to not have to explain the nuances
and dissonance that comes with being Black in a world that reminds you of the
fact every day. Yet, I know many interracial couples that make it work, and have
found love and companionship.The question still remains. Does love have a color or a price tag?
Does it matter? Will you lose your identity with a partner that
does not share your background?
The same can be said for those who do not share
the same educational track. At the end of the day, all relationships begin with
a spark and communication. Hearing one's voice across the room, and knowing
that someone supports you in all that you are is the foundation for love to
prosper in grow. When someone really hears what you are saying, and is able to
share in your spiritual, mental, and physical existence then that should
interest you enough to pursue something further. It should encourage the both of
you to nurture and build on the possibility that love does exist. And that does
not take a certain color, salary or degree, it just takes patience and common
sense.
does not share your background?
The same can be said for those who do not share
the same educational track. At the end of the day, all relationships begin with
a spark and communication. Hearing one's voice across the room, and knowing
that someone supports you in all that you are is the foundation for love to
prosper in grow. When someone really hears what you are saying, and is able to
share in your spiritual, mental, and physical existence then that should
interest you enough to pursue something further. It should encourage the both of
you to nurture and build on the possibility that love does exist. And that does
not take a certain color, salary or degree, it just takes patience and common
sense.
Everyone desires to walk into a room and feel love, friendship, and
companionship. Everyone deserves to have that. Anything that makes you feel less
or inadequate should not be acceptable.Black women are always being fed some
nonsense and expected to believe it out of desperation for answers. Last time, I
checked there are not many of us with such a low sense of self worth that we are
sitting at home praying for the perfect formula that will send us the perfect
mate. Every woman, regardless of ethnicity, deserves passion, honesty, enriching
conversation, laughter, and kindness.
Now I challenge those same writers to
create an article that addresses those issues. Nothing more and nothing
less
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