There are relationships that will leave you completely broken. You know the ones where you gave your heart and soul or the promises that you heard were not quite kept in earnest. The ones where you either fell out of love with each other or you were left carrying your heart. After a major break up, divorce, or separation, you have to eventually find your way back to you.
At first you feel devastated. You want to cry, yell, scream, kick things and snot cry again. You feel as if you are a complete failure and there is guilt because it simply did not work when you literally gave it your all. You are tempted to be strong and not grieve. Wrong!!! Each time you cry and scream, you are one step closer to finding yourself again. You may not want to love every again. But tears do not make you weak and always being strong is completely overrated!
But the first task at hand is finding enough love for you again. You can only find this through forgiveness. You must get rid of the guilt. It is okay to be single and it is okay to return back to your original goals and dreams. When you are in this situation, you are usually rebuilding your spirit, soul, energy, and sanity all at the same time. Because when you look around you can see the pieces of you, broken like a smashed mirror. And there will be days that it feels as if you will never find the glue to pull yourself back together again.
I am here to tell you that it is possible. You will slowly get back to who you are. You will even discover a new you in the broken pieces. And then you will walk to a new path forged out of the pain and newness of self-discovery.
So if this is you, scream and cry and kick until the snot simply won't stop. Love yourself each and every day. Love your brokenness and your wholeness. Love all of your decisions including the ones that led you to this place of hurt. Love your friends and find love in the simple things. Love the air that you breathe and the warm water that flows over you during each shower or bath. And soon you will begin to find passion and joy once again. And your heart and soul will heal.
And that is how you will find your way back to you.
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